Refactor go-libp2p-kad-dht to use go-kademlia

[iand]

ETA: 2023-09-30

go-kademila is a new modular Kademlia implementation designed to have predictable performance and resource utilization.

This issue is concerned with reorganizing responsibilities and behaviours that are currently implemented in go-libp2p-kad-dht between three repositories:

• All general purpose Kademlia types and code should be moved to or replaced by go-kademila equivalents.
• go-libp2p-kad-dht remains the home of the Libp2p DHT and should be configurable with protocol name, bootstrappers, validators, network constants, expiration times, routing table refresh intervals etc
• boxo will continue to use go-libp2p-kad-dht by configuring the DHT with IPFS-specific protocol name, network constants, validators and bootstrappers

Children:

• create a v2-develop branch in go-libp2p-kad-dht to track the refactor, eventually to become v2
• Create KadDHT based on go-kademilia #856
• Add libp2p notifee to IpfsDHT probe-lab/go-kademlia#23
• Optimize reading libp2p messages with sync.Pool buffers probe-lab/zikade#23
• Integrate libp2p resource manager to libp2p endpoint probe-lab/go-kademlia#25

[iand]

Superceded by probe-lab/zikade#3